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I have been skinny since I was a baby. I remember being at the end of fifth grade and weighing only 56 pounds. I eat plenty and I've never even come close to being anorexic.
Some say I'm lucky but I'm not.
I've seen girls get made fun of for being overweight, but a lot of people don't realize that skinny people get made fun of too. We get told we're anorexic or that we need to eat more or "enjoy it while you can" and that there is no way we are possibly healthy.
I remember one of my coworkers picking on me until I was crying because I was skinny and she was upset that she wasn't losing weight.
People have told me that there's no point in me working out because I have no weight to lose. I've also been told that I should never eat a salad because I need the calories. That just makes no sense. Everyone should work out to be healthy. Being skinny does not give me an excuse to just pound down the chocolate chip cookies, I need the same nutrients everyone else does.
We also go through our own set of issues. We get so used to being skinny that when our metabolism does slow down a bit, we don't really know what to do. We are just used to being able to eat what we want.
Right now, I weigh almost as much as I ever have in my life and the weight is not going where I want it to go. I'm not used to it. Does that make my concerns over my body any less than someone else's, who may be overweight? No, it shouldn't, but people try to make me feel that way.
I understand that you may not be losing the weight you want to or seeing your body the way you want to, but there's no reason to make skinny girls feel like less than a person because they simply have a fast metabolism.
Let's just let everyone be themselves in their bodies and encourage everyone to work out and eat healthy to live a healthier life, not necessarily to lose weight.
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THANK YOU! I have been telling people how I've been picked on because of being skinny ever since I was in high school. I went to a predominantly all black school so sure, compared to everyone else, I was very skinny and had no body. They called me anorexic and told me to eat something already. I did eat, wtf!
I've also been looked at by others if I mentioned going to the gym or working out. Apparently people don't realize in order to be healthy exercise is necessary.
Oh and I have to add something. I had Emma what? 10 months ago. When I first had her I still had baby weight on me and now I don't. I am back to being my skinny self. Of course, I hear OMG of course YOU would get back to being skinny. Sorry, my mother is thin. It's in my genes. I take after her.
I've never been skinny. I've always been a big girl but I carry my weight well. I've never really been one to get caught up in the weight battles. I need to lose weight now on doctors' orders but its all steroid weight I gained while doing chemo.
Be you. Who cares what people think about your weight. :)
Just be careful this doesn't turn into a "hate on big girls because they are jealous I'm skinny" situation.
we must be twins because i was just going to do a post about this myself! I've always been skinny and been made fun of as well because people thought I wouldn't eat a lot. Psh... its annoying because so many girls are obsessed with what they weigh but it shouldn't matter in the long run. you are who you are for a reason and someone is going to love you because you're YOU not how much you weigh. right? of course right :)
LOVE this post! These are *exactly* the points I make all the time. I've always been skinny as well, and my mom has called me anorexic more times than I can count (and I'm not). People think I workout too much, but I've literally been saying since I was in elementary school that *everyone* needs to exercise to be healthy! It's considered really bad to judge people because they are overweight (and it is bad), but the same rules should apply to judging people because they're skinny!
Thank you soooo much for addressing us at the opposite end of the spectrum on the weight issue! I always get the eyerolls on the"high metabolism". People think that I just don't eat but then they see me eat a meal and are amazed that I can eat as much as a 200 lb guy! I am always at that 100 lb mark and realize that is just the way it is going to be. I wish more books and news programs/talk shows addressed this issue.
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This was a great post. You read my mind. I, too have always been skinny and people love to tell me how anorexic I am or how I need to eat more. It really gets annoying.
I'm all for the healthy and loosing the name of game of skinny or fat. It's sad and plain wrong. Healthy eating and exercise is all one should really aim for. Out odies are gonna be their only natural size! That's how we're each so beautiful in our ways!!
Thank you so much for this post!! Being skinny was something I struggled with growing up through most of my 20's...(once I hit late 20's that changed a bit...;-) ) I remember being absolutely tormented until I was crying the bathroom all the way through junior high and high school. It was awful!
I totally feel your pain. I am SO sick of people looking at me all wacky if we're having a lunch meeting and I'm eating a salad instead of pizza. It's been implied that I don't eat enough (and worse) more times than I can even count. To the point where I am actually really bitter about it and will snap at someone for even making the smallest comment. I eat like crazy! And it's so stupid that people think we shouldn't work out. Being healthy is a good thing, and fitness = health. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this too, but I think this was a very welcome post!
I think people seem to lose perspective very easily, especially when it comes to weight vs healthy eating. One of my best friends calls herself :skinny-fat: - she is thin as a rail, eats junk all the time, but couldn't run a mile if her life depended on it. She is working on changing the fitness part though and while she doesn't have a pound to lose, I'm having fun being a supportive and knowledgeable friend about running, weight lifting, abs, etc.
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I am so glad you posted this. This was me in high school. I was 5'9" and maybe 145lbs. I couldn't gain weight to save my life, but I ate. Oh lord I ate. I never took care of my body as a kid and just ate so much junk, but I was told I was anorexic all the time. And then people said I was bulimic because they would see me eat but I wouldn't gain anything. It was so depressing. I have never had an eating disorder...I love food too much and hate throwing up.
Anyways, my metabolism has slowed and I was like you. I didn't know what to do. How can you when you have never had to worry about it? I am now trying out WW and working out a bit more consistantly than I did, but man...it's hard.
Thank you!! I'm so glad you posted this! In fact, one time in middle school or early high school (I don't remember exactly) I walked on the bus and I had a box of donuts that I brought to share with one of my classes and someone in the back yelled, "what's the anorexic girl doing with all the food!?" I was humiliated! All I wanted to do was cry!
I love this post! I am in the same boat as you, my friends who were overweight would complain all the time about being overweight and if i said anything,. they would all scowl at me...but being underweight was no fun either. I ate, and ate and ate some more and never gained an ounce. When I was pregnant with my first, i gained 87 lbs...that was a whole lotta baby (thank god for big baby) and I remember leaving the hospital skinny and people being mad at me...my second, not so much! My body has decided that enough is enough, I no longer wanna be skinny...I am not overweight mind you, but it didn't come off like the first and for the first time in my life, i feel that i look healthy!
I absolutely love this post!!!!!! :) Thanks for sharing.
I have IBD which leads to being malnourished and weight loss. It's hard to be here, too. I agree, I need the same nutrients as most (significantly less fiber, though), but just because I have this condition I shouldn't be put down because I'm smaller. I'm the smallest person in my immediate family (parents + sister), and my mom and sister are both fighting being overweight. When they found out about my condition, they said "How do we get that??" And when I tried to tell my sister that the things she says are hurtful, her response was "Well you've never struggled with your weight, so I'm sorry but I don't feel bad for you." Seriously??
Glamour magazine recently published a study where both overweight and skinny people are instantly judged. Overweight girls tend to get labeled as "lazy," and skinnier girls tend to get labeled as "bitchy." Yep. That's definitely fair.
Thanks for being honest!
Don't worry about what others say. You lool great so enjoy it!
I completely agree with you. Granted me are both at opposite ends of the spectrum, but everyone should be healthy. Getting the right amount of nutrients, exercising and feeling good, mind, body and soul. Congrats on writing this post :)
Thank you for posting this! A lot of people don't understand that it is just as hard to be super skinny as it is to be overweight. People think it's ok to pick on skinny people but it's just hurtful. I'm very glad that you posted this because it is something that needs to be said. It's frustrating to have to explain to someone that you're eating a salad because you're trying to be healthy not lose weight.
This is such a fantastic post! I used to get the same nasty remarks as you do now in high school. I have also been reduced to tears a few times all because no one could understand why I could eat what I wanted and not gain weight. It destroyed my self-esteem and made me eat more in hopes of gaining weight so I would be left alone.
Now that I'm an adult, it's different. Since I've had two kids, my metabolism isn't as fast as it used to be. I can't just eat fast food 3x a week anymore. Sadly though, I'm still what some people would consider "skinny" all because of my jean size. I still get comments but they are heavily veiled in back-handed compliments then they were in HS.
People never take into consideration my short height or the fact that I have a small frame when they comment about how "skinny" I am or how "effortless" it must be to fit into clothes (which I have problems with too!).
Skinny hate as well as overweight hate needs to stop. Thanks for writing this.
THANK YOU! Paige seriously, you took the words out of my mouth. I hate when I get questioned about going to the gym or working out with my trainer. Despite being skinny, I have really high blood pressure and exercise is the only thing that is helping me to keep it down. Plus when I gain a pound, it goes to all the wrong places and it's noticeable. Can't you tell this is an issue close to my heart?
People shouldn't put people down for any reason. :)
i completely agree. currently i am in a women's health class right now. the whole time people were talking about how overweight people get made fun of and how people shouldn't be pressured to be skinny. what made me so mad was that everyone forgets about the people that are naturally skinny. as a little kid i was constantly being made fun of, i didn't hit 100 pounds really until college and then i lost it. while i'm no string bean anymore, i totally understand. there are people that are naturally skinny and its doesn't make it ok to make fun of them.
i also think that we should all strive to be healthy. whats healthy for one person's body might not be fore the other persons. since i am smaller boned a lighter weight suits my body. however now i still feel like i'm over weight from all my years of fake "fat jokes" because i was so skinny.
thanks so much for writing this.
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I love you for writing this! I'm a skinny girl who has suffered the same criticisms and the same feelings of inadequacy. During my last year of school I put on about 6 kilos and people weren't very nice about it - "oh my gosh, you actually have a BUM now!" and "never thought i'd see the day that sunae didn't fit into her jeans" and it left me feeling like absolutel crap! The 6 kilos I put on were so noticable to me, people kept on commenting about how i'd put on weight and I felt like crap about myself, even though I was still really skinny, then I lost all the weight while I was sick, and the comments were even worse! "omg, you're too thin" "here, have a cookie" "do you even eat?" there was no concern over my health and i felt like I couldn't win either way - put on weight, i'm fat. Lose weight, I'm too thin. Thankfully now I am feeling a lot better about myself and my image, but people don't realise how much the comments they make to skinny people hurt.
My daughter is in 5th grade and weighs 63 pounds.. my 6 year old weighs 10 pounds less.. LOL.
This is a great post! In high school I was always the "skinny" one. It got to the point that I was bigger than all my friends and yet they still insisted that I was the skinny one in the group. I hated it because they always commented on it, but when it came to themselves they always thought they were fat. Even when they were smaller than I was. I hated them teasing me about it and I really believe they never saw how hurtful it was.
I can fully relate to this! I'm constantly being told to eat more and it's not something that I like to hear. I was always skinny throughout school but once I got to college I didn't have the built-in workout that I had from sports in high school. The number on the scale didn't go up but I feel so out of shape. I can't even mention working out or eating healthier without getting yelled at. You're so right about having problems too, just because we're not overweight doesn't mean we're completely happy with our bodies. Thanks for reassuring me that I'm not alone!
People can be so ignorant. There should be no skinny or fat hate. I am overweight and I hate seeing "Real women have curves" and crap like that. There is beauty in every shape and size.
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Love this. So glad I found it but wishing I would have found it earlier! I've literally lost a friendship over weight and its just so so awful. Wish people could just forget it and love people no matter their size. Big or small.
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